OurRelationship

What OurRelationship is

OurRelationship is a self-guided online couples therapy alternative that lets couples work through structured programs without meeting a therapist in an office. Rather than traditional marriage counseling, the service delivers 8-10 hours of tailored content and activities designed to help couples understand and solve relationship issues on their own schedule. The platform has been tested through more than 15 years of federally funded research and is used by thousands of couples seeking relationship improvement.

How it works

The core of OurRelationship is its structured programs, which couples can complete entirely on their own or with optional coaching support. All activity happens through phone, computer, or tablet, and couples can work at whatever pace fits their lives. The content itself is tailored to the specific relationship issues, stressors, and communication patterns each couple is experiencing, so two couples working through the same program might get different emphasis depending on what they enter at signup.

Couples face a key choice upfront: guided or self-directed. The guided path pairs a couple with a coach who leads weekly 20-minute calls at the beginning, middle, and end of the program. Coaches are clinically trained professionals with hands-on experience working with couples, trained in behavior change and skilled at helping partners understand their patterns and emotional drivers. If you choose guided coaching, you can pick a coach whose availability matches your schedule; calls are available during the day, on weekends, and in the evenings. The self-directed path lets couples move through the program entirely independently, without any human contact. Most couples complete a program in one to two months, regardless of which approach they choose.

OurRelationship also offers an entirely individual path for someone whose partner is not ready or available to participate. The individual version follows the same structure but focuses on personal growth and preparation for the relationship. One person's solo work can create enough momentum that a partner joins later, or the individual route serves couples managing severe disconnection where starting together feels impossible.

What OurRelationship offers and proves

Pricing is straightforward and transparent. Couples can work with a coach for a one-time fee of $249, or complete the program unguided for $99. Individuals pay $79. Whichever option you choose, you get access to all program materials and resources for six months, giving couples room to move at their own pace and revisit content as needed.

The company names its intended audience plainly: newlyweds wanting to preserve the honeymoon phase, empty nesters and retirees embracing new life stages, happy couples who want to stay happy, parents juggling life and balance, remarried couples building a new kind of love, and individuals growing for a partner they care about. This reflects the insight that OurRelationship is not crisis therapy but relationship maintenance and deepening.

Military and veteran couples have an additional pathway: active duty, Guard, and Reserve service members are eligible to receive the program for free through Military OneSource. Additionally, eligible couples can access the program through research studies, and several employers and organizations provide free access to their covered employees or beneficiaries. OurRelationship explicitly names free programs for eligible couples in South Florida and Los Angeles County.

Research backs the service's claims about what it delivers. Studies show that 94% of couples are satisfied with the program, 97% would recommend it to a friend, and 91% report improved relationships. Beyond relationship metrics, studies have documented improved symptoms of depression and anxiety among participants, reduced co-parenting conflict, and fewer adjustment problems in couples' children. The foundation of the program is evidence-based: it is grounded in decades of relationship research and IBCT (Integrative Behavioral Couples Therapy) principles.

What OurRelationship does not say

OurRelationship is careful to clarify what it is not. The company explicitly states that its programs are online, self-help programs and are not therapy or marriage counseling in the legal sense. It emphasizes that the programs are "better than therapy" because couples can complete them on their own time from any location. The site does not discuss insurance coverage, and given the straightforward one-time pricing, it appears insurance is not a pathway for this service. The company does not list which specific employers or organizations offer free access; that information is behind a suggestion to check with your employer directly.

The service also does not claim to serve crisis situations or severe mental illness. The evidence-based approach and the emphasis on couples who are motivated and capable of working independently suggest a floor on the baseline functioning expected. Someone in acute distress or with active substance abuse or untreated mental illness would likely need a different kind of care.

Who it fits and who it does not

OurRelationship fits couples who prefer self-directed work over live therapy. It fits people with tight schedules who cannot commit to weekly office appointments, couples managing long-distance relationships, and couples for whom privacy and anonymity matter. The pricing also makes it accessible: at $99 to $249 for one-time access to a full program, it avoids the recurring per-session cost that comes with ongoing in-person couples therapy, where a couple typically needs more than one appointment before seeing progress.

It works for couples with employer benefits or military status that covers the program. For couples managing co-parenting conflict after separation or divorce, the individual pathway offers a structured entry point. Same-sex couples, military couples, and remarried couples all have explicit mention on the site, suggesting the company has thought through their specific dynamics.

It does not fit couples in crisis, couples where one partner is unwilling or unable to engage, or people seeking medication management or psychiatric care. It is not appropriate for couples with active domestic violence, though the site does not address this explicitly. Someone with no computer or internet access cannot use it. Couples outside the United States may find limitations in a program developed and researched in the US context, though the site does not specify geographic restrictions. And while the program is designed for both same-sex and heterosexual couples, the degree of customization for LGBTQ-specific challenges is not detailed on the site; one expert mentioned in reviews notes that videos include transcripts for accessibility, but the site does not describe how the content addresses dynamics specific to same-sex relationships or LGBTQ parents.

The verdict

OurRelationship serves a real gap: couples who want professional-quality relationship help but prefer to work independently, on their own schedule, without the cost and time commitment of ongoing couples therapy. The backing of 15+ years of federally funded research and the transparency around what the programs deliver makes it credible. For couples motivated to engage with structured self-help and comfortable with reading, answering questions, and discussing prompts together, the program offers a legitimate alternative to traditional counseling. The military pathway and free community programs are a strong sign the company cares about access beyond couples with private wealth.

The main trade-off is the absence of a live therapist to help when things get stuck or when the conversations prompted by the app trigger conflict neither partner knows how to navigate. A coach is available but at higher cost, and only for 20-minute sessions at the beginning, middle, and end. For couples managing severe disconnection, infidelity recovery, or unresolved trauma, this structure may not provide enough real-time support. And for couples where motivation is the barrier, where one partner is skeptical of the whole endeavor, a self-paced program requires both people to show up consistently, which it cannot ensure. But for couples in a good enough place who simply want to sharpen communication and intimacy, the program's simplicity and research backing make it worth trying.